As one gets older, it gets harder and harder to meet friends. Most people have established their circle of friends. And trying to add to or get into a circle is not always easy. I also think that as you get older, you become less forgiving of crap.
I have tried to become friends with someone at work. I rarely, if never, do. If I do start hanging out with someone from work, it's because we share something in common. Or, something about them has sparked my interest.
L. is someone I have tried to do things with. We started off well. I was a bit wary of the drama that seemed to tag along with him. I should have listened. So, when do I stop trying? I think this weekend was when I stopped trying.
Here's the thing: when I invite you to something, I will follow up the day before to confirm. I expect the same thing from you. If you initiate the get-together, then follow up and make sure that I am on board. If I have to call you, it probably will piss me off. I especially get pissed off and begin the process of divorcing you from my life, WHEN you don't return my text or call. It's even worse when you call and feign ignorance and nonchalance to what is your mistake.
I wish it were different especially since I get along with this guy. But maybe I get along with him because he keeps himself at a distance. Maybe this is all it is. I will start treating him differently when I see him at work. I will bring it up that he is difficult to make plans with. I will bring it up that he doesn't return calls or texts. I will no longer be interested in this friendship.
I will not be adding to my circle. Later.