I sometimes get asked about relationships. Actually, I always get asked how I maintain my relationship. I give them some routine answer about communicating and being honest. But the truth is there is no real answer to the question of how to maintain a relationship. With anyone.
There are always two personalities involved and the older the person gets the less it is likely to change. And no matter how much you think things will change, they really won't. If anything the idiosyncrasies intensify. What bothers you now, will bother you even more later.
So, why stay? I also don't have an answer for that. Some people get tired and move on. Some people put up with it and stay. Who knows what's right. What's right is what makes you a person. I guess the secret is to never lose who you are in a relationship.
Maybe the answer is to be a couple but still be individuals. I don't know. I am not even sure why my relationship works. Or does it? Or is what it is what I consider working? I can tell you that it's not easy. I sometimes wonder why we bother at all. I sometimes wonder why anyone bothers to find a relationship. I still think it's easier to be single. Get your shit together and enjoy being single. Maybe that's it.
Maybe that's the secret. Being single and having your shit together. Maybe. If I ever find out why, I'll share it. Later.