I am surrounded by a lot of people who are unhappy in their relationship. I have no words to describe how I feel but I am a bit scared that I have the most stable relationship of all the people around me. Or is it?
So, what makes me think my relationship is, well, functional? Let's see: we have our fights but they are outweighed by our laughs. We talk about things more often than not. We enjoy each others company but don't mind our alone time. We have our domestic disagreements but help each other out always. Money is never a source of disruption. And we still start phone conversations with words like "Hey sweet" or "Hello, my love."
Is this normal? Or are we just weird?
But why am I committing this to a blog entry? Because I am surrounded by people who are either in relationships that are over or are trying to add spark to relationships that seem to have fizzled. Or are miserably single. And they complain about how miserable they are. All of my married friends are basically done with it. Those who are in relationships seem to be imploding or compromising themselves to "have a relationship." Well except one.
We have one couple friend who seem to be, for the most part, calm. B & Y just had their first baby. I would say that for both of them, this is their second marriage. But they are not married. And don't seem to be concerned that they aren't. We have the most amazing time with them and their toddler J. Who seems absolutely fascinated by the world. And this is coming from someone who hates kids. The rest of my coupled friends just seem done.
But they are staying. And complaining. And I don't understand why. Leave. I know. You stay for the kids. But is that really enough? I don't think so. But I am not there. So, what do I know. Well, not enough. Which is why I am typing this. Maybe someone can clue me in. Later.