Monday, February 09, 2009
When you see a friend behaving in a way that you feel he needs to change, do you tell him so?
If you see the same pattern of behavior again and again, do you tell him so?
And if you get to a point that you no longer want to hear his excuses for continuing the irrational pattern of behavior, do you tell him so?
And what point do you no longer accept his excuses, accept his behavior, and tell him that his situation is no longer about what he thinks people are doing to him and more about what he is doing to himself... and do you tell him so?
Later.
If you see the same pattern of behavior again and again, do you tell him so?
And if you get to a point that you no longer want to hear his excuses for continuing the irrational pattern of behavior, do you tell him so?
And what point do you no longer accept his excuses, accept his behavior, and tell him that his situation is no longer about what he thinks people are doing to him and more about what he is doing to himself... and do you tell him so?
Later.
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Does the behavior affect you? If it doesn't, I wouldn't initiate conversation but would answer truthfully if he asked (for example, I've found that friends with substance abuse problems are well aware that they ahve a problem).
If the behavior does affect you, say the depressed person who keeps canceling dates or taking things out on you when there are much deeper issues afoot, then I'd talk about it.
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If the behavior does affect you, say the depressed person who keeps canceling dates or taking things out on you when there are much deeper issues afoot, then I'd talk about it.
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