A few of my friends have birthdays around Christmas: L. on the 23rd, E. on the 25th, and A. on the 26th. What I find very interesting is how each of them deals with having their birthdays basically next to Christmas. Since my birthday is early January, I kinda understand the effects of having your birthday around a major holiday. For my birthday, I tend to want to do very low-key things. Very very low-key. So low-key that being alone is not out of the question.
L. basically just shrugs and says "What can you do?"
E. appreciates when we call her. When I lived near her, my family would throw her a party because her's would not. We would clear away any Christmas presents and bring out a birthday cake and a bunch of birthday presents, celebrate her birthday for a couple of hours, and then bring the holiday stuff back out (which included another gift for her). E. still loves it when I call but we end up talking about other things besides her birthday doings. She feels, "Eh, what can you do?"
A. is a whole different story. She always wants a bunch of people to go out with her. Will not accept anything less. And, as a matter of fact, never accepts invitations from a couple of us to go out for drinks and a dinner. She tends to think "big crowd or no crowd". She did once bemoan the fact that her birthday was the day after Christmas and wondered why people always had plans. Sometimes, she borders on being cranky.
Today, A. is not out with a bunch of friends. Thing is, we all just got back from long trips back and would rather just stay home and relax. On top of it all, most of us are sick. I have aches and pains all over plus I have the chills. Not a fun way to go out. Plus, we never made plans to go out for dinner with her. We did offer to take her out for a drink. No go.
Here is my thing: if your birthday is right next to a major holiday, wouldn't you just accept the fact that you are not going to be going out with a big crowd and just make the best of it by having low-key plans with friends who are willing to do that? Just wondering. Later.